Book Review: The Gifts of Imperfection

One of the books I read during my self-care month was The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. The book was published in 2010 and has been on my reading list but I just got around to reading it last month.
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I hate I waited so long! But I guess we get the messages we need at the time we need them. This book was filled with so many gems and a-ha moments! The basic premise of this book can be summed up in the tag line, Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.  

Thank you and good night.

Brown (a shame researcher) explores how we spend so much time pretending our lives are perfect and seeking approval that we miss out on fully living in the moment. One of the in depth messages that I took away from the book was that we don’t automatically think we’re worthy of love and acceptance, so we work hard to receive this from outside sources and all the while we’re rejecting ourselves.

A very good book that even weeks later still resonates with me. One of my favorite quotes from the book:  “Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.”
I mean when you stop and think about that, I mean really think about it- it’s pretty profound. Because we live in a world of goals and to-do lists and achievements and grinding and hustling and it’s all about reaching that next level to get more, more, more. . .and when we fall short -we feel like failures.

But when you acknowledge just how amazing life is even in the midst of failure. . .you can see, hear, walk, talk. . .you’re in a position to even be able to TRY and pursue your passions. But too often instead of embracing what we have, we’re focused on what we want. And most of the time we want it for the wrong reasons. We want it because of how others will perceive us and we’ve convinced ourselves that somehow that is tied to our self-worth.  

The number of followers, likes, friends, connections.  . . .etc. It’s really bullshit at the end of the day. As Brown says in the book, “. . .it’s about the need to manage perception. We want to be able to control what other people think about us so that we can feel good enough.” Ouch. But thank you for that truth bomb!

As I've gotten older, I've learned what matters is real life connections and the impact you have on someone and the world around you. And how you still have that effect even long after you’re gone. I’m all about embracing my imperfections these days. They are a part of me, the real me. And I’m pretty damn awesome!

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